Once upon a time I used to write my comments in all lowercases which I thought was a good idea because it looked casual and none-threatening. Then I got a rather rude comment (on another person's blog) about not capitalizing my sentences coupled with other not-so-great forms of expressions and that's when I started commenting with capitals. I like to say thanks to that person for making me feel like crap for a couple of days and also, screw you. No, I don't mean that. Okay, just a little bit. I may be forgetful, a bit too honest but I never start fights but I'm not a saint. I'm sure I didn't say anything that deserved such respond but people can be sensitive even by the tiniest thing so you can never predict how you can offend someone even if you did and said nothing wrong. I usually do not respond to such rude comments but I didn't listen to myself that time.
If you don't like a comment, delete it, ignore it or simply pretend it doesn't exist. Don't engage - that's really the only solution.
What do you do when you encounter a rude comment?
Delete rude comments
ReplyDeleteChristine: That is a good way to combat them.
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It depends on the comment. If it's rude, but accurate, I'll post it. If it's rude, but funny, I'll post it. If it's rude but hateful, I'll delete it unless I can think up a snappy, withering response to it, then I'll post both the comment and my response.
ReplyDeleteDebra: I like your comment rules. Often I could not come up with a snappy comeback. I only think of them too late.
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I'm sorry you had to experience that. I guess that person didn't get the memo "if you don't have anything nice to say, say nothing at all."
ReplyDeleteTamara: That is a good rule but some of us couldn't really follow it.
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I don't think your "transgression" warranted a rude comment...but some people just look for a reason to fight. I don't approve rude comments - simple as that.
ReplyDeleteRoberta: I think not approving rude comments is a good way to handle them but still sometimes it's hard to judge what's rude or simply just someone talking honesty. I guess it depends on what was said.
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I would delete it and move on.
ReplyDeleteRelated: Some people just plain suck.
Al Penswasser: Delete and move on, yes, that's what I should have done. Some people do suck.
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The only comment I delete if it leans to selling me something.
ReplyDeletepeppylady (Dora): I do that too.
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Yes, the best thing is to delete or ignore a mean comment and move on. But it's hard not to be bothered. I didn't read the comment, but I bet it was a general pet peeve by someone who had punctuation and grammar crammed into their head many time by teachers as the proper thing to do. Today, they don't teach it so much anymore, and texting has made things more casual. It all confuses me of what the "proper" grammar is these days.
ReplyDeleteLive and Learn: I should say, it wasn't just the comment about capitals, there were couples of other things that I couldn't remember now but the capital bits was the one I remember more.
DeleteI'm also a bit confused by today's grammar rules but we can only write the way we know how.
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Writing in all lowercase makes for harder reading - but still not a thing to enter rude comments about.
ReplyDeleteI tend to delete rude comments, because I think we all need more positive comments - I will leave it only if it is totally 100 % right.
For non-natives, correct grammar is more important, I still remember scratching my neck over diverse errors like a 'veil of poison' or a 'clam before the storm'. Even typos or misplaced punctuation can make me stop and re-read the sentence a couple of times before realising that it is indeed an error, and not something I just do not know ;)
Charlotte: I agreed we need more positive comments. It's true that grammar errors does cause misunderstanding and not everyone knows certain phrases that are only used in certain regions. I can understand why there would be some hard to understand comments if the grammar is incorrect. I try to use proper grammar and keep error-free but sometimes I make mistakes but I correct them if possible.
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I would delete a rude comment. That just puts the wrong kind of energy into the universe. Believe me, there are so many snarky things I want to say, but like the saying goes, some things are better left unsaid. The person was petty and sounds extra cranky. It's lowercase letters. What's the big deal?
ReplyDeleteSamantha: I should say there is more to the rude comment beside the captializing bit but it's still rude but I regret responding to it when I really should have let it go. It's hard to know what sets people off. So it's best to delete rude comments.
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I think it depends on how rude the comment is, whether it is something meant as a joke or something really awful said to the writer. A truly awful comment would be deleted, one that is a joke is okay, but if it is an upsetting joke then I would ask the person the "play nice" or stay away.
ReplyDeleteRiver: If people can 'play nice', we weren't have to ask them to do so.
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I totally agree with the don't engage. I used to have a really hard time with that when I first started blogging because so many people tend to want to banter...I use to block people and the set my blog so only followers could comment on it.... now it's like I don't care (wisdom? age?) If people are making rude comments that's on them...if they don't like the post they should just go away. Working in a chat environment means interpretation of words and how they are delivered is HUGE ... all caps is a big no no that I still struggle with. Sometimes I find my self typing a response reading it and thinking...that is not going to come across well. Any hoot some people are just mean spirited and I think maybe they are just not having a good day and I'll let them spew their rudeness and hope for the best next time.
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Barbie: It's good advice to let some people spew their rudenss. Maybe they are having a bad day but it's hard to understand when they are being rude.
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